The Gap

You know, when you sit on a beach chair at the shore, your mind gets baked like your body and you tend to wander as you look at people walking down the beach. That guy with the black socks, and sandals, …..what does he do? Then you think of all the crazy scenarios that run around in your sun baked mind and you laugh. Now there is a young family……wide eyed and full of the future ahead of them…..wonder where they live? The mind thinks of nothing important in a beach chair. As my eyes located our two young life guards, I saw them constantly talking and laughing and I was thinking, ” I wonder what their story is?” ” Are they college room mates working together for the summer?” ” Maybe they are lifelong friends on a summer adventure?” IMG_0938

Then my mind went back to when I was not ready to enter the working world just yet after graduating from college. I said to my dad, ” I want to work at Sugarloaf, Maine this winter as a ski instructor. I will be staying in Bob Irish’s cabin in Stratton, Maine. I want to get the hours and training in so that I can pass my PSIA Certification for Ski Instruction.” My dad looked at me in a funny way and said, ” Don’t make a career out of it.” I could have done that, as many have done and enjoyed their life in the mountains, but I knew this was a need for a specific purpose and that I most likely would not make a career out of it. But, I was sure glad that I went and worked at one of the more premier ski locations in the East. It was cold as hell that winter, but the experience was great and it prepared me to go to Killington and pass my exam. I subsequently made another trip to Tuckerman Ravine and camped and skied with some friends and eventually made my way home straight to Marilyn Young’s party- 15 hours of driving right into her driveway looking pretty much like what you see here. 70019150-SLD-001-0028

A lot of young people take a “Gap Year” to do something they might never get to do if they just pursue their education and take the subsequent job after college. Some quit mid-stream and ” find themselves” when they are perhaps lost in the educational shuffle and need some time off to find their way. Others leave and never come back because college is not for them. I have seen both paths and most of them have worked out best for the person who is willing to take the time off, travel, experience new things, but knowing that someday, they would finish their education or move on to the job that awaits them after college. I really did not have much direction other than the half baked idea that I would go to law school. But that fizzled and the “Gap” at Sugarloaf gave me some perspective of being away on my own, earning a meager living, and working in the resort industry. It was a lot more fun than my summer job in the box factory and it prepared me for something outside of my formal education. I traveled a lot in my 20’s because I was more interested in my outside of work activities than I was with my job of working in my dad’s small company. It was important for me to have this “extracurricular” life because my work life was not all that fulfilling. My dad was understanding but the catalyst for my wanderlust began with my winter in Sugarloaf.

Personally, I think most young people are really not ready to go to college after high school. And if they do go, sometimes there are difficulties or questions that lead to taking the ” Gap”. Questions need to be answered and needs met so I tell young people all the time that if they have a particular passion to do something for a little while outside their prescribed path, they should take the opportunity. You have your whole life to work, have limited vacation time, and then the pressures of family, mortgages, and life in general. You feel better sometimes if you get it out of your system. Some people make a living from their “Gap” passions and if you can do that, you are fortunate indeed. But at the very least, you have had the experience and you can have the pleasure of relating your experiences to your co-workers in the future or your family and friends. To this day, I still tell of my adventures as a young guy in New England and I am happy for it. I am glad that my path took me to Sugarloaf and I am glad the the result of my winter was fruitful in many ways. I should have done more of that.

So, these two in the lifeguard chair have a lot of life to live. They will remember these days for the rest of their lives and when they are sitting in a cube or perhaps in their own business someday, they can look back with fond memories of the laughs at the beach, and the stories from their “Gap” experience. Parents- encourage your kids in all aspects of their development.beachwater Thanks for reading.

8 thoughts on “The Gap

  1. Paul K. Vey says:

    Well said Patrick…even at my ripe old age, its still important to take a little time for fun, even if its in smaller chunks! ☺

    My grandmother who was incredibly bright, yet undereducated, often said, “have fun, ……….because life is not a dress rehearsal”

    How right she was….

    Best to you and Janet!

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  2. Jim Sota says:

    I did not start my current career until 1991. Up until then I worked at my family’s service station, went to college, worked at bike shops, taught cross country skiing and groomed trails, started the Mt. Bike program at Hidden Valley and enjoyed life. I learned many lesson during that time and I still enjoy my life. Thanks for another great article which has encouraged me to remember and smile.

  3. Russel Davies says:

    Pat, I did not realize your connection with Bob Irish, he is/was quite a guy. I lost touch with him a few years ago. Is he still living? when I lived in Rochester NY working at Xerox our hard core ski group went to Tuckerman’s for half dozen years on Memorial Day weekend. My best friend and I went there in April once in a big snow year and skied the headwall. What a rush!

    • patmccloskey says:

      Hi Russ. I have not seen or talked to Bob in a number of years. Not sure if he is still with us? Went to Tuckerman 7 years in a row. Twice in the last year including Fourth of July. Thanks for reading

  4. Janet McCloskey says:

    Good read Dear!!😍

    Sent from my iPhone

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  5. Hutch says:

    Great post Pat! My gap years lasted about 15 years! Loved working the golf and ski businesses though and would not trade those experiences for anything!

  6. Bill Day says:

    Great message Pat, but you truly missed your second calling, telling stories!
    Take Care, Bill Day

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